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Dr. Venessa Marie Perry

Is this the life you prayed for?

Published 3 days ago • 1 min read

Hey Reader,

Before you jump back into the workflow, let me point you to three areas to ponder:

  1. Your Career: Is it fulfilling, or just familiar?
  2. Your Friends: Do they pour into you or drain you?
  3. Your Relationship: Does it make you grow or shrink?

These are uncomfortable questions, and most of us have learned to silence them. We stay busy, stay needed, stay distracted. But midlife won’t let us hide forever. At some point, the quiet voice gets louder: This isn’t working anymore. Something has to shift.

And if you were raised in faith, like so many of us were, the dissonance can feel even sharper. You were taught to pray, to trust, to wait. But what happens when the waiting leaves you empty? When the prayers don’t line up with the life you’re actually living?

That’s not a failure of your faith. It’s an invitation. An invitation to stop mistaking survival for purpose. To wrestle honestly with God, Spirit, or whatever anchors you, and ask: What does alignment look like for me now, in this season of life?

Because deep down, you already know: purpose isn’t lost. It’s waiting for you to choose it again. That journey can feel scary - but it doesn't have to be when you are in community. That's the driving force behind the BYOND experience. I can't wait to share more about what we're building - but until them, stay close, stop silencing the questions and journal your answers. That's where clarity can begin.

With you in the wrestle,

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Dr. Venessa Marie Perry

Psychologist|Executive Coach|Strategist|Author

Welcome to my Creator Page! As a licensed psychologist, organizational and leadership development consultant, and executive coach with over 25 years of experience, my aim is to help individuals and organizations build high-performing teams, master effective communication, and transform relationships. The main vehicles to facilitate this transformation include 1-on-1 executive coaching, strategy consultations and the BYOND group coaching experience, a sanctuary and community for Black women to inspire, uplift, and empower one another while focusing on well-being and collective transformation.

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